Talk about a phrase that can send this young lawyer into a bit of a panic. I mean, is there a series of words that is more panic inducing than those for young female lawyers??
Sure, I don’t have kids yet. But that’s exactly what all the panic is all about. My mommy lawyer friends are well-settled into a life where kids and family are obviously the most important thing, even when work remains an important priority. Life has got to be hard, balancing all of those actual real-life demands. No question. But what if all those things are still hypothetical…you are just starting a family, or want to, and you’ve got two clocks ticking loudly in the background—the one that says your running out of time!! And the one that says you better bill some time or watch your professional trajectory stall out just when it’s getting good!
I’ve long thought that the greatest cross us girls have to bear is the time limit on our reproductive years. And for us lawyer-types, the timing seems particularly unfortunate, and maybe even a little unfair. Most of us finish law school between the ages of 25-27, leaving us just 5-7 years to establish our careers and practice before its time to start locking up our baby plans. Demonstrating to our firms that we are as committed to our legal practice as our male counterparts is difficult when you feel like all of your life’s hopes and dreams for family are coming to a screeching halt thanks to something you have absolutely no control over…thanks bio-clock, who needs you anyway!
So what’s the solution? Freeze eggs early and often? Perhaps we push for a separate, but equal (yeah, right) mommy track for those of us who want our professional careers and some sweet babies. Or is it time that us girls realize that we can have it all, just not all at the same time?
What do you think?